Calling men is often one of the most confusing aspects of a relationship. You’ve most likely heard that good girls never call men because it makes them look easy, that isn’t necessarily true. It isn’t always wrong to call a man, but rather it is the situation surrounding the phone call and the nature of the relationship between the woman and the man. For example, when a woman and a man are close friends, she might call him numerous times throughout the day, without any reservations. However, as a general rule, if you have just met a man, and he has asked for your phone number, you shouldn’t call him, but rather wait for him to call you. Think of it this way, you already let him know that you are interested in him by giving him your phone number, now the ball is in his court. It’s his turn to show you that he is interested in you by taking the initiative and calling you back.

When a woman gives a man her number, then doesn’t wait for him to call her but looks him up in the phone book, on White Pages, or Google’s his name and digits she is showing that she is impatient at best, and desperate at worst. Take your pick; neither trait will win you any points with your potential partner. It is best to let him call you, this shows you that he is sincerely interested in you, and now the both of you are on level playing ground.

It’s important to realize that dating isn’t a science but a series of events that occur between two people. Chemistry is a powerful thing, but many times the force that draws eyes to lock and butterflies to stir upon first meeting can quickly turn into the realization that after speaking to one another, you simply don’t click. By acting impatiently and calling men that you’ve just met, you set yourself up to get involved with a man, that you might later wish you never had encountered, let alone called. When you wait for a man to call, you provide yourself with an easy way to cut the communication off should you quickly lose interest. Once your relationship has started and he has taken the initiative to call you, you should then think about calling him back, only when you are comfortable with the relationship and want to take things further.

Tips for Calling Men

Every relationship is founded on communication, and the telephone remains one of the best forms of communication available. From landlines to cell phones, the telephone enables people to stay in touch, make plans, and remain in contact throughout the day, weeks, or even on a monthly basis. Yet, apprehension still remains when it comes to women calling men. Many women simply feel uncomfortable calling men, or think that it might make them appear in a negative light. As social standards change, so has technology, and it is no longer seemed inappropriate for women to take the initiative or to call men for any reason. The first issue that women must deal with is self-confidence.

Many women fear calling men because they lack self-confidence or are nervous regarding how the recipient will respond to the call. By remaining confident and self-assured, you will present yourself in a bold, positive manner and your call will be well received. Sounding nervous, shy, or awkward will only make the recipient feel uncomfortable and can cause the conversation to become strained.

One of the main reasons many women lose their self-confidence is because they run out of topics to discuss. Just as the radio and television industry stays away from dead air, the art of telephone conversation should also stay clear of dead air. Confidence in yourself and speaking with assurance will help keep the conversation flowing. You might find that keeping a list nearby that contains some topic starters or points that you would like to discuss on the phone is a good idea. You might even be amazed to discover that the conversation flowed so well that you didn’t need your backup topic list.

When calling men, it’s important to realize that your voice can make or break your future relationship. If a woman calls a man and then speaks with a harsh or loud voice that sounds brassy or abrasive, she might ruin her chance at a nice relationship. Also, pay attention to how you laugh over the phone. Laughter is a great sign that the conversation is enjoyable, but don’t become boisterous or extremely loud with your laughter. Some women even make snorting noises when they laugh, and if you do this, try your best not to snort over the phone, it can make the man feel uncomfortable. Present yourself as a lady, speak calmly and politely, and keep your voice at an even tone and the conversation will flow smoothly.

When calling men, you will need to balance the subject of the conversation. Speaking only about yourself will make you appear self-centered, and the man might feel that you have no true interest in him. On the other hand, if you continually ask the man one question after another, you might appear as if you are interrogating him. By letting the conversation flow naturally, and continually interjecting phrases such as “What do you think about that?” or “Yes, I do, how do you feel about that subject?” you can keep the conversation flowing, without appearing to be self-centered. Better, you will find out more about the man’s personal interests, likes, and preferences without appearing as if you’re interrogating him.

The art of gentle conversation is to keep the conversation flowing while revealing more about you, and at the same time, discovering details about the man. It might seem a simple task, but it is truly an art form. Presenting yourself in a pleasant manner will ensure that he feels comfortable speaking with you on the phone. Once he feels that he can trust you, he will begin to open up and confide in you. It is then that your relationship has taken an intimate turn.

Successful phone conversations occur when both parties tell intimate details about themselves and share secrets that they wouldn’t want others to know. It is therefore, absolutely imperative that a woman keeps these intimate details to herself. Telling his secrets to your girlfriends, who then share them with her girlfriends and boyfriends, is a recipe for disaster. When one of the guys tells him the full details that he shared with you in confidence, you can make certain he isn’t going to talk to you on the phone again. Before you ever think about calling men, you must be committed to keeping his secrets and intimate details in confidence.

Once you’ve called a man and found the conversation to flow smoothly and that your relationship was enhanced, you’ll quickly agree that there is no reason not to call men. Calling men might have been inappropriate at one point, but things have quickly changed in the past century, and there is no legitimate reason for women not to pursue a man she is interested in. Many potential relationships have never had the chance to grow, simply because a woman feared initiating contact with a man. Today, calling men is common, however, knowing how to do so properly requires careful planning. By using these tips, you can make certain that you won’t fall into the same traps as others when calling men.