Calling men can be a two edged sword. You want to further communication with a potential love interest so it seems that calling him is the best method. However, it can be the quickest way to turn a guy off and ruin what could have been the relationship of your dreams. Some guys simply do not like women who pursue them by calling them. There are however, certain times and instances when it is perfectly okay to call men, knowing these are key to ensuring your relationships thrive rather than crash and burn.

First, you must realize that women can always call men, when they are friends. Friends call friends, and many women hide behind the guise of friendship to spend more time talking to their love interest or crush on the phone. This has its benefits as well as disadvantages. The benefits are that you can call, and more than likely, your buddy will answer the phone and talk to you. The drawbacks are that your crush will speak to you like a buddy and may never make the connection that you want to be more than friends. When it comes to turning a solid friendship into a passionate, romantic relationship it takes more than talking on the phone to make that transition. However, you do have the benefits of knowing that you can talk to your crush as often as you like. But if you want to take the relationship to a new level, you’ll have to be honest and tell him how you feel, most preferably in person.

Another time that it is appropriate to call men is when there is important information that must be delivered. If you work with your crush, or spend time with your potential mate involved in social, community, or religious functions you might find that there are legitimate reasons to call. This can often be an open door for further communication, as you are not being seen as intrusive but a bearer of important messages. When making these types of calls, leave your number and let the man know that he can call you at anytime if he has any questions or just wants to talk. By leaving this door open, you’ll know that he has your number, you’ve made the offer, and he just might take you up on it, letting you know that he is interested in you.

When you’re involved in a new, budding relationship and the man has begun calling you regularly, you might be wondering when you should call him back. If you are nervous about calling him, don’t worry you’re not alone. Calling men can be a very nerve wracking experience, especially for the first time. Play some relaxing music, take a few deep breaths, and make sure that your throat isn’t dry or scratchy. It’s best to drink water at room temperature before speaking, so keep a glass or bottle with you by the phone. If you are nervous about what you will say, then jot down a few topics on a notepad to help you remember. You might even find that writing down some of the things that he likes or is interested in will help you find some great conversation starters and keep the communication flowing.